Orn wrote:I think that shyness is just as much of a disease as shyness. Shyness leads to depression because shy people have way worse social and love lives. The only thing that saves shy people is if their friends that arnt so shy, but even that probably wont help their loves lives much.People can be shy because they are afraid to offend people. I suggest to find a girlfriend, simply introduce yourself and tell her that you think shes pretty and you want to ask her out on a date (or phone number). Don't force the issue if she has an excuse.
Most girls like a compliment, but it makes them feel ackward if they are in a releation ship already. It won't offend them as long as you dont try to force the issue.
Most men will find a date from this method one out of ten times, so dont give up after the first attempt (you will get better at it too).
PS
From my experiance women like confidance more than anything, even more than anything.
Well, the issue here is that (and this is especially true if you are over 20), roughly 99% of the girls that you are going to find attractive are in these relationships already.
If you propose to them, they will turn you down, and feel awkward at the same time. But that's pretty much how it has to be.
What you have to do is realize this. Go into the situation knowing full well that you are going to get rejected. Talk to her anyway, and PUSH! Keep pushing until right before she calls the law. She should be pretty awkward and disturbed at that point.
Now go retreat off to yourself, stalk her on the Internet, and start hating. It will act like a drug on your body. Your hate will turn into love for yourself.
In the end, you gained your self esteem, and she had to suffer the awkwardness associated with activating her bitch shield.
That's the way of life.
Remember, that even if she said yes, she's still going to grow old. Your passion will die, and she'll become a burden.
One should never have to rely on others for fulfillment. Others will always come up short. They are always prone to betraying you.
I have never known a single person in my entire existence who I could rely on to take my personal side of things more than my own self.
One other note, is to try not to show your hate to the target person. Hate is something private for yourself. Indifference is the more effective tactic to use overtly against others.
